Choosing a wedding dress can be one of the most difficult decisions a bride must make when planning her wedding. It’s even harder when her mother drops the bombshell that she’d like her daughter to use her dress. Here are some reasons you shouldn’t.
It’s Your Day
While your mom means well, this is your special day. She had the opportunity to choose the dress of her dreams and you should have the same. Stand your ground and don’t let her bring on the guilt trip.
It’s Old …Very Old
Look, unless your mom just got married a couple years ago, you’re looking at having to wear a dress from another generation entirely. In order to liven it up you’ll have to make some modifications, but then it won’t really be your mom’s dress anymore, will it? It’ll be just the same fabric on an entirely new dress.
It’s Not Selfish
Choosing the dress of your dreams over your mom’s old frock isn’t selfish, no matter how much she might try to paint it that way. What is selfish is trying to force your desires on your daughter and make her wedding day all about you.
You’re Different People
Even if your mom has lovely taste, hers isn’t the same as yours no matter how much you might be alike. You’re two different people who should have two different dresses. Hand-me-downs are for older and younger sisters, not moms and daughters.
You’ll Resent Her
If you’re choosing your mom’s dress just to make her happy, you’re going to feel disappointed every time you look at that wedding album because you didn’t stand your ground on your own wedding day.
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